Let’s jump into my story, to my self-paid maternity leave.
Spring 2021 I had my first child and was so excited to be home enjoying all the baby snuggles.
I was also so glad to have this time off because my husband and I were super underprepared for the workload. Let’s face it, we were overwhelmed new parents.
Days and nights full of breastfeeding on-demand and trying to change a diaper quick enough so we don’t get peed on. 🤦
Side note: The first time my husband or I had changed a diaper was at the hospital after the nurse first demonstrated it to us. Looking back, that first month was full of really bad diaper jobs. 🤣
Seriously, why isn’t there some training for having a kid?
And I hear it gets much harder when they start talking!
My goal at first was four months off like a standard maternity leave.
I wanted to pay for it myself and have the time off. This was how I was going to prove to myself I was successful.
Yes, I will admit it, that’s why I set the goal originally. I’m always striving for new goal milestones, but I have a funny way of never appreciating the milestones I’ve already achieved. Anybody else?
Well, once I was on my actual maternity leave, my days were a total blur and most days I was lucky to have a shower.
New videos went up, emails went out, orders got fulfilled.
I still made money.
Even though I didn’t work for four months.
My systems worked so well that, when the four months maternity leave was over, I wanted more.
And why not, right? Everything was working smoothly on autopilot so why not take more time off!
My reason wasn’t like before, where it felt like a status symbol to “pay for my maternity leave”.
This time I knew I was truly doing it for me.
You see, one big piece I haven’t mentioned, is that I had been struggling privately with Postpartum Depression.
Thankfully, I have a very supportive network and having struggled with depression previously in my life, I knew when it was time to call in help.
My answer was “flexibility”. I want to have flexibility of time and flexibility of income.
When I answered that, though, I realized where one of my pieces of anxiety was with the “flexibility” of my day.
I was just starting to get back to work and I was working the craziest hours. Some days it would be 45 min and other days it was 4 hours. There was no structure.
Ok, so this was TOO flexible for me.
Well then, what about a mix?
Currently I’m working from 10am-3pm then taking the rest of the afternoon off for family time. Some nights I’m recording videos for my YouTube channel or for my courses, but I try to get it all done in that 5-hour block.
So, if I was to ask you the same question my therapist asked me, how would you answer?
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